DCF Frustration and Anger
Some actions by The Department of Children and Families (DCF) social workers may lead to stress, frustration, anger, and depression. A notable example of this is a DCF parental alienation situation, where a DCF social worker held important information back. Negative emotions can cause inappropriate reactions such as yelling, swearing, and threatening.
This type of conduct can lead to the department seeking or deciding to remove your children. Do not give them more reasons or motives that will justify the possible removal of your children. Staying calm helps families stay together and cope with negative emotions effectively. Parents have made threats against judges and DCF that may land them in serious trouble.
For example, a father from Willimantic, Connecticut, was charged with harassment. On Christmas Day, the father posted a video to his Facebook account, where he made threats against the social worker and judge that were on his case. The rant was a result of DCF taking his children. The father claimed that the department had “[kidnapped]” his children. The holidays can bring out the best and worst in parents. This is especially true when your children are removed. This father was no stranger to the law. He has had multiple criminal records.
The father posted on his Facebook “…an article titled ‘Is It Ethical For a Parent To Kill a CPS Worker’ with a photograph of the barrel of a gun” (Moser E., 2018). The threat was brought to the attention of DCF and resulted in the arrest of the father. This is an obvious example of how NOT to release your emotions. It is important to find healthy coping mechanisms that will help you properly deal with your situation.
Ensure that negative behaviors do not put you at risk of losing your children. It is important to understand that becoming aggressive will not solve anything. Your lawyer should argue with DCF, not you! While it may seem like a straightforward solution, opting for this approach will ultimately do more harm than good.
Instead of simplifying matters, it will only serve to complicate the situation further, exacerbating the existing issues rather than resolving them. Dealing with DCF can be frustrating, so learn coping skills to stay calm. To successfully combat DCF, consider the following tips. Firstly, try to gain a different perspective on the situation. Additionally, make an effort to focus your energy on positive and healthy strategies.
By doing so, you can effectively fight against DCF while maintaining your well-being. Discussing problems with loved ones or professionals can help release your feelings in a healthy way. By opening up and talking to someone, you can gain a different perspective. Find creative ways to channel your emotions.
This would include:
listening to music, painting, drawing, or dancing. Working out is a great way to release any negative emotions. It allows you to let go of any negative energy by doing something productive and healthy for you. Write a letter with everything you are feeling, all your thoughts and emotions. Let it all out and do not hold back. The key to this letter is to let everything out. Be sure not to mail this letter. By doing this, it reduces the chances of negative confrontation.
Let everything out and do not offend anyone or cause a scene. Occasionally, shedding tears and letting out a scream in solitude can be a remarkably cathartic and emotionally liberating experience, especially when you’re grappling with overwhelming negativity and stress. This is especially true when dealing with issues related to fighting against DCF or parental alienation due to the department, as it allows you to release pent-up emotions, find solace in solitude, and ultimately foster a healthier state of mind.
When feeling angry at times, it is helpful to take a step back and breathe for a few seconds to calm down. You have to remember that your children need you to fight for them, and that is something that cannot be done with rage and frustration clouding your judgement.
If you find yourself in this situation, it’s advisable to seek legal representation from a qualified attorney, like those at the Law Office of Kevin Seaver, who can advocate for your rights and guide you through the complex process of a DCF investigation.
Remember that the ultimate goal of DCF is to ensure the safety and well-being of children while supporting families in crisis.
Please note that this article does not create an Attorney-Client relationship between our law firm and the reader and is provided for informational purposes only. Information in this article does not apply to all readers.
Readers should not rely on this information as legal advice and should seek specific counsel from the attorney based on personal circumstances. Thank you.
Kevin Patrick Seaver is a Massachusetts DCF Defense Lawyer who represents parents against false child abuse allegations.